Dan Allender

Dan B. Allender, Ph.D, is a prominent Christian therapist, author, professor, and speaker focusing on sexual abuse and trauma recovery, as well as story, marriage and family, and Christian Sabbath. Dan is one of the founders and former President of The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology in Seattle, Washington and continues to serve as Professor of Counseling Psychology. He is a therapist in private practice and a frequent speaker and seminar leader. Dan received his M.Div. from Westminster Theological Seminary and his Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from Michigan State University. He is the author of To Be Told: Know Your Story, Shape Your FutureHow Children Raise Parents, and The Healing Path, as well as The Wounded HeartBold Love, and Intimate Allies.

Books by Dan Allender

Articles By Dan Allender

25 Years

Saturday April 23, 2016

christian life pain & suffering

When I began writing and teaching about sexual abuse in the late eighties there was little material available from which to glean those first putative steps on the journey. At that time it was assumed that informing people about the diabolical damage of abuse would decrease the likelihood that it would continue to occur at the same rate, and I wanted that outcome with a passion.

Count the Concatenation

Wednesday March 14, 2012


I sat with four other folks in my office last week talking about a joint venture in Ethiopia. The value in counting the concatenated costs, known and unknown, is that it invites us to move as close as we can to the rumbling and rumination of desire deposited in us by the Spirit.

May It All Be True

Tuesday January 10, 2012

pain & suffering parenting

Dan reflects on life, death, truth, and lies after a close friend’s son passed away before breathing his own breath. Join Dan as he shares the raw pain of suffering in light of Christ.

JoePa and Sermon Selection

Monday November 14, 2011

church leadership pastors

Years ago, I was invited to a Presbytery of a Pentecostal denomination to talk about sexual abuse. It was an odd invitation. I could not resist. I was not disappointed. It took us 15 minutes for them to digest the immensity of what they were discovering: virtually no one talks about sexual abuse.

Heroes, Danger, Goodness and Prostituted Women

Tuesday May 31, 2011

I do know my heart needs heroes—men and women who have lived with imaginative abandon and foolish savvy to build the Kingdom of heaven on earth. A hero is an ordinary person who seizes the opportunity to step into the maelstrom to rescue, to care for those caught in the dark cruelty of their situation.


Monday April 4, 2011

christian life prayer

When the late local news came on it was a signal that I had gamboled away nearly 5 hours of my life in the seduction of nothingness.  I felt like crap. I binged and I felt dirty, stupid, and empty.  Debauchery comes in many forms.  It is in moments like this I have far too often ignored the ache.